The Program Invitation

This year long immersion learning program intended to be a nurturing, compassionate place to experience ancestral support and blessing for learning how to live, love, and work with greater balance of giving, receiving, and belonging. It is for those called to integrate wisdom from Systemic Family Constellations (SFC) and Lisa Iversen more deeply into their personal or professional lives.

Its’ intention is to provide a(n):

  • Solid groundwork in Systemic Family Constellation principles;
  • Unique combination of group and individualized experiential learning;
  • Setting that reclaims & integrates indigenous wisdom with western knowledge, understands & respects the influence of trauma in oneself & the constellation field, honors the balance of feminine & masculine wisdom, invites awareness of influence of sibling relationships, promotes awareness of the field’s effect on children, and invites consciousness regarding immigration, colonialism, & slavery;
  • Introduction to applications of SFC in group and individual practice settings;
  • Integration of constellation wisdom with ceremony, working with stone meditations, and ancestral prayer;
  • Safe, supportive learning setting in which to gain confidence in balance with humility for aspiring SFC practitioners;
  • Opportunity to receive support for acceleration and integration of unfolding truths;
  • Practical experience in how the field of ancestral wisdom is accessible in daily life;
  • Compassionate, competent mentoring and guidance from Lisa Iversen


Lisa Iversen on why the program is called “Family Matters”


Who is the program for?

Healing practitioners (therapists, massage, acupuncturists, shamanic, doctors, Reiki, etc.), personal and organizational coaches, artists, teachers, parents, and others seeking to integrate Systemic Family Constellations into their practices and lives.  This program is for both women and men. Those who have participated in other constellation learning/training programs or none are all welcome to apply.

Background requirements:  experienced at least three constellation workshops or individual sessions, ability to commit to yearlong learning process, and a “good enough” personal and life stability.


Program Structure

  • Seven three day weekends
  • 4-6 individual in person or phone sessions with Lisa
  • Periodic conference calls to support individual and group learning
  • Practice sessions in small groups or pairs between large group weekend session
  • Mentoring and apprentice opportunities with Lisa and Family Matters Alumi

The unique combination of group learning and one-on-one time with Lisa provides:

  • opportunity to receive support for acceleration and integration of unfolding truths;
  • support for and modeling of variety of ways to integrate the constellation method into one’s healing practices and life; and
  • practical experience in how the field of ancestral wisdom is accessible in daily life.


2014 Program Dates

March 14-16 | May 2-4 | June 20-22 | August 8-10 | Sept. 19-21 | Oct. 31-Nov. 2 | December 5-7

Fridays from 9:30am-6pm – Saturdays from 9am-6pm – Sundays from 10am-5pm


Program Location

Private, beautiful, nature based, seaside retreat center in Bellingham, Washington (80 miles north of Seattle, 60 miles south of Vancouver, B.C.). Referrals to a range of accommodations provided.


Program Cost

$3,400.  Individualized payment plans, including credit cards and paypal, accepted.
$300 deposit by February 28 required to confirm your place in this program.


Application Process

Limited to sixteen participants.  Early application is encouraged.

To receive an Application Form for the 2014 Family Matters program, please e-mail Lisa at

Application deadline is February 24, 2014. Interviews conducted in February.

  • February 24: last day for applications to be received.
  • February 28:  Deposit required.
  • March 1:  Paperwork received and individualized payment plans confirmed.


Continuing Education Credits (CEUs)

CEUs for professional counselors and coaches pending;  e-mail for details.


Video Testimonials from Family Matter Learning Partners

Family Matters Video Reflections: Part 1

Family Matters Video Reflections: Part 2


Reflections from Lisa on… 

Balance with giving, receiving, and belonging

Many who are drawn to helping professions come from family situations with well developed patterns of knowing how to give and express care while being challenged to receive, especially from one’s parents. It can be challenging to daily live from the place of receiving life how it is come to us, wisdom reinforced by Bert Hellinger’s Systemic Family Constellations, after decades of lived personal experiences in a family context where caretaking or entangled relational muscles have been repeatedly flexed.

Many healing practitioners also feel moved to become facilitators or integrate SFC into their healing practices, sometimes without realizing that doing so too quickly can become another way of hiding from oneself, of maintaining a life pattern of a kind of giving that is out of balance with receiving.

The constellation facilitator who lives with a kind of “good enough” self awareness to recognize how she shows up in the world – at home, at work, in constellation workshops, valuing becoming more at home with herself – gives a great gift to herself and to those with whom she lives and works. Doing so creates a field of safety when working with others that they, too, have permission to show up with a depth of compassion and truth that we know is so profoundly healing in constellation circles.

This yearlong program is intended to be a nurturing, compassionate place to experience ancestral support and blessing for learning how to live, love, and work with greater balance of giving, receiving, and belonging. Each person in this program will be invited and supported to take steps toward embracing and integrating her or his own humanness, unrecognized or unclaimed gifts, and shadows.

Feminine and indigenous wisdom and healing from colonialism

I see an interconnection between feminine and indigenous wisdom: both are “local”. Feminine wisdom embodies ancient traditions of mothers and grandmothers being the ones raising small children. Historically this has meant being at home to do so. Whether or not a person is a parent, both women and men can draw great strength and blessing from these roots.

Indigenous wisdom, by definition, refers to wisdom that is grounded, rooted in a particular region, belonging to place. This wisdom lives in all people – not just in those with First Nations heritage. There can be a tendency in Western culture to either deny or romanticize First Nations heritage, particularly among people with primarily European ancestry. Both ways can be their own kind of trance. Without intending to do so, when those of us with European ancestry deify First Nations wisdom while in disconnection with European indigenous strength, this can be another kind of ‘taking’ in resonance with the original colonialism movement.

This yearlong program invites coming into greater balance with feminine and masculine wisdom, reclaiming and integrating indigenous wisdom from ancestors of all lands, and stepping toward healing from colonialism and slavery.

My strength as your teacher and guide comes in part from this learning program being grounded in Bellingham, Washington, where I live,  love, work, and am a mother to our twelve year old daughter.


The sibling experience has much more influence in our ancestral blueprints than is often understood or acknowledged. Our own, our parents’, our grandparents’ lives as a sibling (or without one in the case of only children) is sometimes the family position that is having tremendous  influence in love, work, and other parts of life. I welcome these images to come into visibility during this year together and look forward to guiding you into deeper clarity and compassion about brothers and sisters. Opening one’s heart to the ways in which we are loving or entangled with our siblings, or aunts and uncles, can be deeply illuminating and freeing, both personally and professionally.

Will I be able to facilitate constellations at the end of this program?

The person of the facilitator is the greatest variable in answering this question. The pace of integration of this knowledge and wisdom varies so much from person to person. No two therapists, coaches, healing arts or shamanic practitioners, learn, integrate, or facilitate SFC in exactly the same way.

Some drawn to this program are already facilitating or integrating SFC into their worklives, others have experienced this phenomenological approach enough to know that the next step is studying with a seasoned teacher, perhaps without yet knowing what or how it would look to integrate it into their worklives.

As the Family Matters 2012 year comes to a close, these learning partners are integrating their year’s of immersion learning into their healing practices & workplaces with individuals and groups, into their family and relational webs, into their creative expressions, and into their place of belonging in mother nature’s web.

Discernment of the “Not Knowing” Place

Allowing the space of “not knowing” is an essential, though sometimes uncomfortable, place. How it is that one lives with this place is highly informative, both personally and if you are interested in integrating SFC into your worklife.

Discernment of one’s relationship with the “not knowing” place is one of the learnings offered in this program. When is “not knowing” the right place to be in, in one’s life, or when facilitating a constellation, a kind of “hollow bone” place to be a vessel for truth to be revealed? When is “not knowing” a kind of denial of what one does know, an alliance with truth unseen or secrets, or a way of resistance to claiming one’s gifts or knowledge – which is sometimes entangled with ancestors who were not free to express their own knowingness?

This yearlong program is a place for you to come into right relationship with these different kinds of “not knowing” with the intention that you will see yourself and others more clearly, including how SFC fits into your worklife. Participants will receive a certificate of program completion at year’s end. Please also refer to the question, “What kind of background do the facilitators have?” in the Systemic and Family Constellations FAQ section on this website.

© Lisa B. Iversen, MSW, LICSW